One Year And Still Kickin’

Saturday we celebrate our one year wedding anniversary. It will also be five years since our first date. As I’ve said previously, I am spoiled, so when we became engaged, the only date I wanted to get married on (besides anytime in October) was September 23, the anniversary of our first date. October was out because we have a huge event at work in October, and my future husband is crazy swamped at work that same month. October is my favorite month, but hey I am just the bride, so apparently I didn’t have a say about that month.

A bunch of people have said to me the first year is the worst. Okay, if this is as bad as it gets, it will be gravy at year 50! The hardest thing was when my husband broke his leg and was not able to walk for three months. Trust me, that was very hard on him, and me, but really it wasn’t that bad on me. I was just glad he didn’t break his neck!

When I told my mom of the selected wedding date, she about croaked because it fell on a Friday. Apparently I inconvenienced everyone by having it on a weekday, even if it wasn’t until 8:00 p.m., so the gang could get there after work. Oh well! At least I didn’t turn into a Bridezilla!

Speaking of the tv show Bridezilla (on the We Network Sundays at 10 p.m. ET), I forced my now husband to watch it with me so he could see how bad it could get, and wasn’t he glad he wasn’t marrying one of those controls freaks. Actually I think it helped me to not take things so seriously during the planning months. I really only lost it one time during a bridesmaid fitting. I swear just once!

One of the harder things for us to figure out in year one has been how to merge our checking accounts and pay bills. It is so hard after many, many, many years of only being responsible for your own money, to merge that in to our money. If someone knows a trick, let me know. I have heard that finances are the top problem spot for couples, so it’s nice to know we are normal. Okay, at least in that arena.

For all of you who think you won’t ever find your better half, and want to, quit looking. Trust me, I was not looking for my sweet husband when we met. But I did know he was the one for me. I used to get so mad at my sisters when I would ask “how did you know he was the one” and they would say “I just did.” Well they were right, you just do. And if you’re looking, it’s like a predatory animal that can smell the fear on the animal he is about to eat. If you are looking desperate, and acting desperate, then you smell desperate, so it’s harder to find someone to go out with. So quit looking and just have fun.

And to my husband, Happy Anniversary! It was the best party I’ve ever been too!

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